Announcement
Live Stream, Coaching, Podcast and Video, and Zoom meetings!
Greetings readers, it’s been a long 6 months since the last post. I’ve missed you all so much! I’ve spent all this time mired in a variety of different projects, some of which I’ve been dying to share with you all, but before I fill you in on what I’ve been up to,
I’m thrilled to announce that I will be appearing in a Substack Live broadcast with
this Friday, June 6th at 11am PDT/2pm EDT. We will talk about family scapegoating abuse, dissociation, and my experience recovering from CPTSD and Dissociative Identity Disorder. I imagine it’s going to fun and silly, though Rebecca and I take the gravity of the subject very seriously. If you’re a traumatized black-sheep in your family system, this live stream is for you! Rebecca is a licensed therapist, the author of the book Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed: Help and Hope for Adults in the Family Scapegoat Role. She was faculty at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology and is the researcher who coined the term “Family Scapegoating Abuse”. She also has a Substack linked here:
If you have any questions for me, related to the above subjects (or really anything), please feel free to mention them in the comments and Rebecca and I will do our best to address the query on Friday.
Instructions for how to stream the meeting live:
If you miss the live broadcast, Rebecca will be sharing the full video after it is processed and ready to publish, and I will be as well. Though I’d be thrilled if you could be here live and in person! Paid subscribers to Rebecca’s newsletter and community will be able to view an in-session chat and talk to us semi directly via the live text chat.
Now, business as usual:
I want to welcome all our new Subscribers the past few months. We have grown four-fold. Some of you have been supporting me from the very beginning, and as usual, I am grateful beyond what I can express! This newsletter is as healing for me to write as I hope to make it for you to read.
First off, I’m now taking clients for one-to-one coaching for CPTSD and related mental health struggles. I’m am now a Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach. I do not do diagnosing, treatment, or psychotherapy which have their own enshrined place in recovery from CPTSD but are a smaller more intense dose of deeper and surgically specific treatment. Coaching is the process of putting all that into practice! It’s the physiotherapy and the athletic coaching you need to get back in the game. I can help you with planning, routine, accountability, processing, motivation, sharing lived experiences, exploring and getting to know your authentic self better, and a safe container to employ the new skills you have learned in your recovery journey. You don’t have to tell me what happened to you, or explore the details of your trauma and I don’t offer therapy. I know what it’s like to have the full spectrum of symptoms, and I’ve learned through knowledge and experience how to work ones way up from that rockiest of bottoms. While I am not going to be providing any kind of medical treatments or advice, I bring my knowledge and experience as a medical professional with an MBBS degree to the table. Healing happens in the context of relationships, and I can provide an informed and compassionate dynamic geared towards growth and a return to function. I’ve been coaching people, including health care professionals with CPTSD and other mental health conditions for the past three years. I am particularly skilled with individuals who need help navigating grief, burnout, daily routines and self care (this can be super hard for people having a mental health problem), and recovery from trauma born issues. As a coach I have a high degree of flexibility in the ways I can assist you!
Secondly, Elephant In The Mirror is becoming a multimedia outlet, with audio and video content in the process of making its way into your inbox! Up coming videos will include a deep dive on the neurophysiology of trauma, and a talk on men’s mental health.
Thirdly, starting from the 10th of June 2025, I will be hosting a Zoom meeting for paid subscribers to EITM (for safety, privacy, and quality), every second Tuesday from then. I have set the time for 6pm EDT, but if we have enough interest I can move that around for the comfort of people willing to attend.
I will also be continuing the ‘Fucked Up Shit!’ series of essays, which are a casual and direct challenge to the tons of bullshit we have taken to be the beautiful train wrecks that we are through sharing information, research, and solutions! You can expect to learn about trauma, dissociation, and its causes and effects, including research and resources, interesting terminology, and personal insights and tips from a medical professional who has done a lot of work to recover from CPTSD, DID, and a consistently and severely traumatic childhood. As usual, we unpack the self related, the social, the systemic, and even the spiritual. We do this by embracing both tears and laughter, exploring our love and our hate, and we share both the grief and the relief. When we are associated with each other we are strong. When we are disassociated…
I would like to especially thank the handful of dedicated readers and subscribers who pay for the newsletter. You don’t realize it, but the coffee I’ve bought with the 5 dollars a month you had been paying up until this month has had more than caffeine, or even alcohol in it. It’s been spiked with the fuel and confidence to continue doing this, sharing mental health information and knowledge for free, and having the privilege to walk alongside you all on this journey as a witness, as a companion, and as a friend. Your support does help this space keep developing and I am lucky to be working with you all!
See you on Friday!
See you tomorrow - looking forward to it - and so is my cat (!) !